Whenever we see romantic movies, so many times we say, “I wish there was someone who would love me like this”. Or if we already have someone by our side we generally say, “look, that’s so sweet, you never do something like that for me”.
Stop and give it a thought, how many times do we say, “I wish, I could love someone that way”? How many times have we thought about giving love, about enriching someone else’s life with our love?? Never , or maybe just few times, but not much.
We always ask, what will we gain, what am I getting from relationship, we never think about giving. We always crib about how u feel that other person doesn’t love you anymore …… blah blah blah …….. but we never stop to think that other person might also be feeling the same thing. Love is not about how happy the other person makes you, its about how happy do you make the other person. Now some of us will be thinking, oh! I think about my partner all the time, I always give him/her my best, I do this and that for them. Beware , Be aware, there is no such thing as unselfish deed in this world. Whenever u do something you do it for your own self. Think about it, when you do something for your partner, you do it coz it makes your partner happy, which in turn makes you happy, or u might do things coz you think they are your responsibilities, But you do it for your own self. Be aware of this , take responsibilities for your action.
But even if we do all of the above things, there still remains a emptiness inside somewhere. A craving for something unknown. That emptiness can only be filled by His Love. The unconditional love. Love that is not limited to just one person, love that knows no limits. You see, human relationships are not meant to satisfy you, they never satisfy you eternally. No matter how strong bond you share with another human being, it will fade away eventually.
Human relations are like mock tests, just to make our preparations better. We have to dissolve in another human being before we can dissolve in That Ultimate.
Love is a subjective term. Everyone has his/her own defination of love. But one universal defination might be that “Love is a feeling”. That’s it, love is a feeling. But nnnoooo …… its not enough for our minds, how can it be, it has no conditions, no limits?? We crave to be loved that too on our own terms and conditions. Anything less won’t do. Can we be more selfish? Actually, that’s the wrong question. The question is, how ignorant can we be, not to see this? Not to be aware what our mind and ego is doing to our love and relationships???
(This article is inspired by- Osho)