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Good thoughts to Cherish

Be nice to others in the same way, as you want others to be nice with you.

Life is too short to live, so, think good and saybetter and try 2 do the

best then this world will be more beautiful toyou.

When money is lost nothing is lost, when health islost something is lost,

when character is lost everything is lost.

Live like a candle, which burns itself but giveslight 2 others.

Impose your own terms upon life, if you don't youwill have 2 accept the

terms of others.

Look backwards with gratitude, upwards withconfidence and forward with

hope.

When you truly care for someone you don't look forfaults, you don't look for answers, you don't look for mistakes, instead youfight the mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook the excuses.

I am a cracked pot..How about you

A water bearer in Indiahad two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole which he carried across hisneck. One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfectand always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk fromthe stream to the master's house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only oneand a half pots full of water to his master's house. Of course, the perfect potwas proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made. Butthe poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that itwas able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to thewater bearer one day by the stream. I am ashamed of myself, and I want toapologize to you." "Why?" asked the bearer.

"What are you ashamed of?" "I have been able, for these past twoyears, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes waterto leak out all the way back to your master's house. Because of my flaws, youhave to do all of this work, and you don't get full value from yourefforts," the pot said. The water bearer felt sorry for the old crackedpot, and in his compassion he said, "As we return to the master's house, Iwant you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path." Indeed, as theywent up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming thebeautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some. Butat the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half itsload, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure. The bearer saidto the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side ofyour path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always knownabout your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on yourside of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you'vewater them.For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate mymaster's table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have thisbeauty to grace his house."

Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're all cracked pots. But if we willallow it, God will use our flaws to grace this Universe. So, as we seek ways tominister together, and as God calls you to the tasks He has appointed for you,don't be afraid of your flaws

We rightfully teach children—and attempt to live our own lives—by the credos of responsibility, self-control, and mature self-reliance. And yes, being responsible is a very good thing. But when our attitude reaches the point where we trust more in ourselves than in God, twin temptations, both that lead to spiritual shipwreck, suddenly confront us.

One temptation is pride, an unhealthy arrogance that slips (or roars) into our thinking when things are going great in our lives. We become convinced that we are in control of our own world. The second temptation, despair, works itself into our hearts when we face the inevitable difficulties and setbacks of life that are outside of our control.

Daily trusting in God—acknowledging that He is the one source of all good gifts and success and the only safe refuge when life is difficult—steers us from these twin dangers. The good news is that with complete and total trust in Him, He directs our steps in the most fulfilling paths for our lives.

God, I know that You are in control. Help me trust in You day by day, moment by moment.

"FEELING GREAT"

If you could choose between feeling gloomy and feeling delighted, which one would you choose? If you could choose between feeling sorry for yourself and feeling confident in your ability to make a difference, which would you choose?

The delightful fact is that you can choose and you do choose your attitude, every moment of every day. When you're feeling sad or happy or frustrated or assured, it's because you've decided to respond to life in that particular way.

By feeling lousy you are not going to do anyone any good. Yet by feeling great and putting those feelings into action you might just lift up others around you and make a positive difference in your world.

But what about those days that are filled with challenges, obstacles, frustrations and pain? Well, if you don't want to feel great about what's going on, you can always choose to feel great in spite of what's going on.

No matter what has happened in the past, this moment is filled with positive possibilities. No matter how lousy you may have felt five minutes ago, you can choose to feel great about yourself right now.

And when you genuinely open your eyes and open your heart to all the good things that are truly possible, the world around you will begin to resemble those great feelings you have.

"My Work My Worship By Swami Ranganathananda"

1. “Are you growing spiritually? Can you love others? Can you feel oneness with others? Have you peace within yourself and do you radiate it around you? That is called spiritual growth, which is stimulated by meditation, inwardly, and by work done in a spirit of Service outwardly.”

2. The great new mantra today is “Work” and ‘Hard Work’; along with Hard work, intelligent work co-operative team work. All great undertakings are product of team work. We can meet the challenge of freedom only when we have learnt this character-efficiency involved in team work and intelligent hard work. This is the philosophy which we have to learn consciously, not unconsciously, somehow stumbling into it.

3. Work from ego point of view is all tension. But behind ego, there is an infinite spiritual dimension. When that is realized even a little, then extra work won’t make one feel that it is heavy. Even ordinary experiences will tell you: Whenever there is love in the heart, the worker doesn’t feel heavy. When there is no love in the heart, even a little work makes one feel very heavy. As soon as you have love for a particular cause, you can do anything; do hard work, but have a spirit of detachment based on a larger love.

4. Work is no work at all. It is a question of agency and attachment. When these two are not there, work ceases to be work, it becomes a play, it becomes spontaneous, and it becomes natural. When you become thoroughly detached, then all that tension goes away. You are working, but you don’t feel that you are working. What a beautiful idea!”

5. Work is drudgery; Sri Krishna will not allow that attitude. There is joy in work also. Do not abandon work; go on doing work; but, mentally renouncing all actions. It is a wonderful state of mind-working and yet not working.

6. Those who work, work with a zest and with joy and in work, learn calmness and the serenity of the human mind and heart; what a wonderful joy it is to work in such a way!

"TOUCHY EGO"

Only the ego can be touched. It is very touchy. If somebody just looks at you in a certain way, it is touched. He has not done anything. If somebody smiles a little, it is touched; if somebody just turns his head and does not look at you, it is touched. It is very touchy. It is like a wound, always open, green. You touch it and the pain arises. A single word, a single gesture -- the other may not even be aware of what he has done to you, but he has touched it.

And you always think the other is responsible, that he has wounded you. No, you carry your wound. With the ego your whole being is a wound. And you carry it around. Nobody is interested in hurting you, nobody is positively waiting to hurt you; everybody is engaged in safeguarding his own wound. Who has got the energy? But still it happens, because you are so ready to be wounded, so ready, just waiting on the brink for anything.

You cannot touch a man of Tao. Why? -- because there is no one to be touched. There is no wound. He is healthy, healed, whole. This word 'whole' is beautiful. The word 'heal' comes from 'whole', and the word 'holy' also comes from 'whole'. He is whole, healed, holy.

Be aware of your wound. Don't help it to grow, let it be healed; and it will be healed only when you move to the roots. The less the head, the more the wound will heal -- with no head there is no wound. Live a headless life. Move as a total being, and accept things.

Just for twenty-four hours, try it – total acceptance, whatsoever happens. Someone insults you, accept it, don't react, and see what happens. Suddenly you will feel an energy flowing in you that you have not felt before. Somebody insults you: you feel weak, you feel disturbed, you start thinking of how to get your revenge. That man has hooked you, and now you will move round and round. For days, nights, months, even years, you will not be able to sleep, you will have bad dreams. People can waste their whole life over a small thing, just because someone insulted them.

Just look back into your past and you will remember a few things. You were a small child and the teacher in the class called you an idiot, and you still remember it and you feel resentment. Your father said something. Your parents have forgotten, and even if you remind them, they will not be able to remember it. Your mother looked at you in a certain way and since then the wound has been there. And it is still open, fresh; if anybody touches it, you will explode.Don't help this wound to grow. Don't make this wound your soul. Go to the roots, be with the whole. For twenty-four hours, just twenty-four hours, try not to react, not to reject, whatsoever happens.If someone pushes you and you fall to the ground -- fall! Then get up and go home. Don't do anything about it. If somebody hits you, bow down your head, accept it with gratitude. Go home, don't do anything, just for twenty-four hours. And you will know a new surgeof energy that you have never known before, a new vitality arising from the roots. And once you know it, once you have tasted it, your life will be different. Then you will laugh at all the foolish things you have been doing, at all the resentments, reactions, revenges, with which you have been destroying yourself.

Nobody else can destroy you except you; nobody else can save you except you.

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers.. This was in the initial days. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!”

So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake.

This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same. After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back. The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.

By Swami Tejomayananda

Before we talk about success let us first determinewhat we mean by youth. We will define youth as those individuals who arebetween the ages of 18 and 30 and have lots of enthusiasm. They are industrious and want to make a name forthemselves. However, we find that this youthful energy can also be misdirected. This happens becausesome of the youth lack an ideal toward which they can direct their energies.

An Ideal Youth

1. Being morally good

2. Helpful to others

3. Having a clear conscience

4. Love for learning

5. Having high hopes or aspirations

6. Able to hold on to principles and values

7. Being physically fit

8. Having great inner strength.

Our scriptures Our scriptures define an ideal youthas not only being of a certain age, but also as someone in whom you find the virtues of

goodness and nobility. They list the physical, mental and intellectual attributes

needed to be an ideal youth and affirm that one whohas these qualities and the

resourcefulness to make use of them, will have a fuller and happier life.

Success

We all strive for success in life but what issuccess? By definition, success may be the attainment of a desired object or acertain goal. But suppose our goal is to become wealthy and we become richat the expense of another person, thenthat cannot be considered real success. For true success we should see whetherit is gained through noble of ignoble means. Both the goal and the means are

important. Even if the goal is good but gained throughunfair means, then the gain is not glorious.

True abiding success is that in which lies thewelfare and well being of all people. When all are happy, then our happiness isautomatically included. When we strive selfishly only for our own happiness, wecan make many people miserable. Secondly, true success is that in which liesprosperity for all, steady inner growth, and firm and abiding spiritual values(dharma). In order to gain true and lasting

success we need certain qualities which we will nowdiscuss.

Vision ofLife

First we must have a comprehensive vision of life.This vision has to be characterized by the welfare of all beings. Even thoughwe have to live life day-to-day, event-to-event, and project-to-project, weneed to constantly maintain the total vision. Some people become embitteredwith life's unpleasant experiences because of a faulty vision. But people withthe right vision, see the oneness of all, and find the world to be the bestteacher. To them the world is wonderful! Whether you want to be a successfulsinger, dancer, or a professional, your vision should be to serve societythrough your chosen path. Only then will there be an abiding success thatblesses all of humanity, including you.That is true achievement.

Three kindsof Vision

1. Sattvika – pure vision, ability to see the onenessof all.

2. Rajasika – impure, governed by likes and dislikes.

3. Tamasika – dull and dark, fanatic and angry.

There are three kinds of

vision of life and they

depend upon the condition of

our minds.

The first type of vision

(sattvika) sees the oneness of al beings, the unityin diversity, which manifests itself in the form of love and service towardsall.

The second vision (rajasika) sees only thedifferences. Such an attitude gives rise to likes and dislikes in our minds.The third vision is tamasika. It sees only parts of the whole, wherein we setout hearts on one little thing and behave as though it is the "be all and endall" of life; and life becomes unimaginable without it. This narrowness of visionmakes a person fanatic, angry, and frustrated.

Plan of Action

1. Decide and outline the objective.

2. Identify the means required to achieve it

3. Gather and mobilize your resources.

4. Execute the plan.

Discrimination

One's vision also depends on one's ability todiscriminate. In Sanskrit this faculty of discrimination is called buddhi. Itenables us to clearly distinguish between right and wrong. This faculty is alsoof there kinds. In the tamasika buddhi there is total confusion, right isperceived as wrong and vice versa. The person who has rajasika buddhi isconfused and the right decisions are made only at times.

When the sattvika buddhi predominates, the differencebetween right and wrong is clear and all doubts are gone. If we desire our own welfareand at the same time that of the world, we must be able to see the oneness ofall beings (a sattvika vision) and know he difference between right and wrong(sattvika buddhi) then the result will also be sattvika.

Fortitude

When we undertake any activity, we are bound to faceobstacles. To overcome them, we require other important qualities such as:fortitude, courage, patience, and the ability to hold on to our principles,ideals, values and goals. The word fortitude is dhrti in Sanskrit and there arethree types of fortitude. People with tamasika dhrti spend their time grievingabout the past, fearing the future and daydreaming in the present! They beginto enjoy living in sorrow and are not motivated to achieve anything in life.Those with rajasika dhrti have various ambitions, and sometimes fulfill them,but many times get frustrated and do not contribute much to society. Only thosewho have determination, perseverance, and fearlessness (sattvika dhrti) are agreat blessing to this world. That kind of

fortitude leads to true success. All the great anddedicated people have enriched our culture for eternity. They provide solaceand enlightenment to millions of people even now.

Faith

Faith is another important quality we need to besuccessful. We need to bear in mind that if it is the Lord's Mission, the Lord alone is capable ofaccomplishing it. That is faith! So why don't we give charge for once to theLord and see how He works! When you are in the Lord's service then where is theproblem? Let us consider ourselves privileged to be in His service and trustthat He will see us

through life's tasks, that is His promise.

Let me share an incident with you. After GurudevSwami Chinmayananda attained final rest, mahasamadhi, I was chosen to be headof Chinmaya Mission. A reporter asked me whether I was fit to assume this role.I responded that I am confident that if I am not fit, I will be made fit withthe blessings of the Lord and Guru. Sometimes that faith is shaken and thathappens because we depend upon people or a thing instead of the Lord. The Lordis a great taskmaster who frustrates you whenever you turn your attention awayfrom Him. So always remember – we must have that faith without fear – to be inservice of the

Lord is a great thing! In moments of weakness ordoubt, we must remember Gurudev's words –

"We can! Wemust!" Then we say, we will!

Plan of Action

In order to be successful a plan of action isessential. Absence of a plan could lead to chaos. The first and most important stepis to determine the objective clearly. For example, if you want to become a doctor,you must be clear whether your objective is to be a world-famous specialist,and earn a lot of money, or to

serve the poor with your knowledge, in which casesuper specialization is not required. Today, there are many young people wholeave India to go to the U.S.A. Theyfirst come on a student visa, then graduate to a work permit, then a greencard, and finally become a citizen. After some time they want to return to India with theintention to reconnect to their roots. However, they find it difficult to

leave what they have accomplished in the affluent U.S.A.

Then they wonder what they should do. This is mainly because of undertakingactivities without a clear objective. There is nothing wrong in

going to the U.S.A. to earn money or settledown, but non-clarity of vision will create problems.

The next step is to identify the actions needed toachieve the objective. For example, if we want to go to the U.S.A., thereare many prerequisites such as passing examinations and obtaining a visa. We needto identify these and plan how to achieve them. Swami Chinmayananda used to saybeautifully,

"Plan out your work, then work out your plan." Do notstop at the planning stage. Many projects remain on paper because people do notgo beyond the planning stage. After planning, work out your plan.

For the execution of your plan, you will need manyresources. In our example of going to the U.S.A.,

money needs to be arranged and would be one of thekey resources. But resources can also be in the form of your own mental andphysical fitness. Thus resources can be internal or external. We must be clearwhether we are mentally prepared for the life in the U.S.A., which could be verydifferent from the life that we are used to. One must start mobilizing theseresources. So, the first step is to plan, then identify the means required toachieve it, mobilize your resources, and then do the actual work necessary tocarry out the plan.

Goal and Objective

Now we are adding two words "goal" and "objective." Agoal is an ultimate achievement. In order to achieve that goal we have toundertake various activities, which will be geared towards reaching it.

Thus, all our activities have a specific intent andpurpose. For example, personally my ultimate goal is spiritual –Self-realization. As a sannyasi, I require purity of mind, which is obtained byselfless action.

So the objective of the selfless action is purity ofmind. The objective of selfless action is not directly the realization of theSelf. Let us say I practice japa (repetition of prayer). The specific objectiveof japa is to attain single-pointedness of the mind. Both purity of mind andsingle-pointedness are required for the achievement of the goal of Self-realization.Hence both are geared towards the goal, but each of the activities has specificobjectives.

So far we have seen that vision, discrimination,fortitude, faith, and plan of action need to be developed so that we can attaintrue success and happiness in life.

Happiness

Happiness is also of three kinds. We are all familiarwith the kind of happiness that can be derived from the senses; these arecalled rajasika and tamasika happiness. Happiness that arises out of drinkingor taking drugs is delusional and is called tamasika happiness. This kind ofhappiness is neither an achievement nor a success, but is actually a totaldefeat. There is also the happiness born

of the contact between the sense organs and the senseobjects, which appears to be giving a lot of joy, but in the end creates onlyproblems. This is called rajasika happiness. Both tamasika and rajasika happinessappear to be giving joy, but in fact, they create bondage.

Sattvika happiness is not necessarily enjoyable inthe beginning but it is like nectar in the end. We know that happiness can bederived fro the senses through sound, color, taste and smell, but we cannotcomprehend the happiness that is possible when the mind becomes calm. If weknow that kind of happiness, then all the excitement and charm of the outerworld ends. Sattvika happiness is that

happiness which comes through grace, from purity ofmind, and from the very source of happiness

itself and is independent from the world of objects.

Measuring Success

Success has two aspects – an external aspect and aninternal aspect. For example, an external measure of success for a student ishis/her marks or grades. But the internal measure of success is measured by theamount of love the student has developed for his studies. This internal aspectis subjective. There are many students who perform brilliantly but actually doit out of compulsion. We have a tendency to judge students by their performancein one final exam and then label them as We can contribute to society in manyways – by being cheerful at all times and by doing and saying something good, or even through a nicethought. True success is measured by how much we are growing internally, andhow much we are able to contribute positively to the

welfare of society. This kind of success is gainedwherever there is dharma. Only a person who follows righteousness attainssuccess. A great person is great in every little thing he does. Such a person'scharacter is revealed in every activity he undertakes! Greatness actually becomesthe nature of that person!

successes or failures. But every day in schoolteaches a student something, and that is an achievement that we tend to ignore.Let me give another example of how to measure success properly. Suppose wedecide to meditate

and get up early and sit for half an hour. But aftersome time we feel that we were a failure at meditation because we noticed thatour thoughts were wandering, then that would not be proper way to measure success. The very fact that we gotup early, which never happened before, and we were

able to sit for half an hour in a single posture isan achievement in itself. So, congratulate yourself! The other aspect aboutsuccess is to check if he specific purpose of each action has been achieved. Successis measured one action at a time, slowly succeeding step by step in our journeytowards the goal. Never lose sight of the ultimate goal. Intermediate successesshould enhance our confidence in achieving greater and higher things. So onemeasure of success should be increased self-confidence, it is a fact thatsuccess increases one's confidence and joy. Next, we measure success in termsof whether or not the actions are causing harm or benefiting other

people. The real idea of success lies in the welfareof society not in individual happiness at the cost of others. Our goal is, "Mayall be happy." The scripture says: sarve bhavantu sukhinah – May all be happy.Sarve santu niramayah – May all be healthy (free from disease). Sarve bhadranipashyantu –

May all see happiness only, everywhere. Ma kashchitdukha bhagbhavet – Let no one suffer.

This is ourgoal and we must go on working towards it to the best of our ability.

All of us have great potential, but a vision

or reason is required for the potential to

manifest and to enjoy true success. The

company that we keep and the goal that

we follow become instrumental in

bringing out that potential. Study the life

of great persons, find out who inspires

you, look for the characteristics that

made them great, and try to bring them into yourlife.

An all-rounded personality is one who is successfulin all aspects of life. Otherwise as Swami Vivekananda said, "Once in alifetime even a fool can do something great!" That does not make the individualgreat.

PracticalTips

Let me give you some practical tips. Look at yourinner beauty, not just your

external appearances. I read somewhere, "Your innerbeauty is reflected in the

smiling faces of others around you." Carry inspirationand knowledge with you. Be steady in your studies. Be honest. The mostimportant thing is honesty with yourself. Learn the art of time management sothat you are able to give time to your studies, your job and your family. Youmay think that these are very general instructions, but let me tell that theseare really important and require great attention. We already looked at theimportance of having an ideal, a sattvika vision, and a plan of action; theseare all necessary to achieve your goal.

So be happy wherever you are! Wherever you go youshould be like sugar in milk. The sugar is not seen but it gives it its taste.Do not be like lime and spoil the milk. Instead, sweeten the milk. Then youwill have greater and greater joy within yourself, and others around you willalso be happy. That is called true success.

"THE BEST MESSAGES U EVER READ"

1)Trust God, He knows your future; he may not reveal it, but he will walk withyou as the future unfolds. Don't trust the stars; trust the one who madethem!!!

2) Bravery is saying No to what you believe is No. Sacrifice is saying No towhat you think is Yes. Confidence is saying Yes to what you believe is Yes.Trusting is saying Yes to what you think is No.

3) When you feel God is rubbing you against the rocks, don't think that youwill ruin down to dust; it's just that God is polishing a gem…because you areSPECIAL.

4) There is no oil without squeezing the olive, no wine without pressing thegrapes, no fragrance without crushing the flower…So when things press you down;God is taking out the BEST!!!

5) Though my days have been hell at times, I still reserve a reason to smile!Though destiny seemed to test my strength with all those shit, I still managedto keep my faith! Because I know that after every tear that falls out of myeyes , gives a new spark of happiness that's even greater than every suckingpain I felt! Damn!!! I still believe in Happy Endings!!!

6) In life you will realize that people you meet have a purpose. Some will testyou, some would use you, some would teach you and some would bring out thebetter if not the best in you!!! Some may even cause you pain and headache; butone must learn to move on….So let go the people who can't treat you right andhold on to those who love you back and see your worth!!!

7) Losing in life and regaining what you have lost, makes you the mostconfident person; because you are no more afraid of losing as now you realizeyour ability to regain.

8) Attitude is a little thing which makes a big difference in life. But itshould be like: " I am not the BEST….but I am not like the REST"

9) Never let anyone make you feel that you don't deserve what you want. You areworthy of your happiness; what they say does not change anything, it does notchange you….UNLESS YOU LET IT!!!

10)The trouble with a rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat. Soalways run with lions no matter even if you are defeated, you still a lion!!!

11) Don't let someone become a priority in your life….when you are an optionfor them!!!

12) People are made to be loved and things are made to be used. The confusionis in the world is that people are being used and things are being loved.

13) The only thing I like about stones that they come in my way is, once I passthem, they automatically become my MILESTONE!!!

14) To be a star, you must shine in your own way. Follow your own path anddon't worry about the darkness. In fact, it's because of the darkness, starsshine brighter!

15) Loving hundred wrong persons may not even affect your life, but hating oneright person will leave you a broken heart throughout your life!!

16) Why do relations break??....it's because people fail to realize that:

If you can't handle someone at their worst….then you don't deserve them attheir Best!!!

17) If you want something which you never had before…. Do something which youhave never done before!!!

18) The future is not something we await. It is something we should create. Thepure taste of success can only be felt with a spoon of failure!!

19) Prayers does not change situation, but it change our attitude to thesituation and gives us hope; which in turn can change our entire life!!

20) Victory is always at our feet, but the problem is that we are too lazy tobend!!!

21) Believe in God like you believe in the sun, not because you can see it; butYOU CAN SEE EVERYTHING BECAUSE OF IT!!!

22) The wrong kind of people hate you for the good in you and the right kind ofpeople love you after knowing even bad in you!!..That makes perfect definitionof relation.

23) Whenever you life or cheat the person who likes you, don't think they arefools to believe….they hide their feelings because they don't like todisappoint you!!!

25) Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. Your past pain andstruggle was just the ground where God prepared you to receive a greaterblessings that's crafted and planned by the almighty God. So as you stand atthe threshold of a decision that determines you life, remember you are notalone, God is with you. He will do a brand new thing in your life, just reachout and receive it in faith!!

26) It's madness:

• To hate all roses if you got scratch by one thorn.

• To give up all your dreams if one didn't come true.

• To lose faith in God if one wasn't answered.

• To give up all your efforts if one of them failed.

• To condemn all your friends if one betrayed you.

• Not to believe in love if someone broke a promise and left.

Remember that time will bring…..

A new friend, a new love, a new life….NEVER GIVE UP…..BECAUSE LIFE IS INDEEDBEAUTIFUL…LIVE IT!!! LOVE IT!!!

27) Truth at college: First benchers are intelligent, until the last benchersdon't participate in the competition.

28) It's better to meet the person who will lose you, but will truly love youforever….than to meet someone promises to love you, but sooner or later leavesyou forever!!!

29) The best part of my living is not hoping that "A person will love me asmuch as I do"….but hoping that I love that person far more than anyone elsecould do!!!!

30) Golden thought: I don't believe in taking right decision….I take decisionand make them right!!!

31) If you stand for a reason be prepared to stand alone like a tree. If youfall on the ground, fall as a seed that grows back to fight again!!!

32) Excellent thought: No one can ever fail in True love….we just fail tochoose the true person!!

33) Excellent thought: If you miss anything don't fill your eyes with tears. Ifmay hide yet another beautiful thing standing in front of you!!!

35) Fate is what we say we lose….have you ever heard of anyone saying fate whenthey win???...that's the fate of fate!!!

36) Golden message: Don't read stories of success. Read stories of failure,because successful stories gives only message, but stories of failure gives newideas to WIN!!!

37) Read it twice: Life can give us number of beautiful lovers, but only truelover can give us beautiful life!!!

38) Words by a true friend who is hurt: It hurts me when you talk to someoneelse and not to me;…..and it hurts me more when someone starts to talk aboutyou more than I know!!!

39) Cute story: Once all the feelings decided to play hide and seek. Painstarted counting and all others were hiding. Lie said it will hide near tree,but didn't do that! Love hides in a rose bush. Everyone hide in differentplaces. Everyone was caught except love. But Anger gave clue about love. Sopain jumped on the bush and dragged it out. Because of thorns in the bush, lovelost its both eyes and hence God cursed pain and it was ordered to be with loveforever. Till today, love is blind and pain always accompanies it!!

40) Don't judge a person by what others says: Heartly the person may be true toyou…but not to others…..because the same Sun which melts the ice; hardens theclay too!!!

41) Beautiful words written by a little boy who has lost his parents in Tsunami:"Sea, I will never forgive you even if your waves touch my foot milliontimes!!!

42) Heavenly truth: The most painful moment of life comes, when the care ismistaken as Disturbance!!

43) The disease of trying to please everyone will eat you up. It's better toearn a bad name and live a good lie than to earn a good name and live a badlife!!!

44) Super love quote by a broken heart: You hurt me more than what Ideserve….is it just because I loved you more than what you deserve???

45)Love is when mom kisses me. Love is when dad says "I am proud of you". Love iswhen brother says "hey sister I have seen a boy for you". Love is when sisterwhile doing your work says, "after my marriage who will do your work". Love iswhen your friend says "hey idiot you need not to go there alone…I will comewith you". Love is when your spouse says "no matter what, I will always be withyou".Love does not always mean saying "I love you"…it's a feeling of love and carefor someone from the heart!

46) Nice lines: She removed "L" from LOVER and now it's OVER.

47) Wonderful words said by a girl to her lover: I don't know much aboutromance, but I want you to be the only one to teach me!!

48) Signboard on the side of a national highway: You are not looking at theroad right now, be careful!!

49) It hurts when you need just a piece of love and there is nobody to give it.It hurts even more when you have an ocean of love and your loved one is notthere to receive it.

50) If you trust someone, trust until the end…whatever the result may be, inthe end either you will have a very good relation or a very good lesson!!!

51) Beautiful words written on a T-shirt: "Be nice to the people who smoke anddrink, because they won't be around you for long time!!

52) Excellent thought: "If the loser keeps his Smile, then the winner will losethe thrill of Victory!!!

53) Two unthinkable quotes:

• When I learnt to dry my tears, I found a shoulder to cry on.

• When I mastered the skill of hating, somebody started loving me.

54) Evergreen thought: THIS MOMENT IS NOT PERMANENT IN LIFE…read this linewhenever you are happy and sad…it works honestly!!

55) An excellent quote written in a prayer hall: God has time to listen, but doyou have time to pray!!!

56) If you want to make God really laugh, just tell him your future plan. Godwill laugh at your innocence because he has something better than your desire!!

57)It's hard to live alone; harder to choose someone to love, but the hardest partof loving is to admit that you have fallen for someone who can never be yours!!

58) Best of love: I know everything about him except that he loves me or not;he does not know anything about me except that I love him!!!

59) END is not end. In fact, END means Effort Never Dies….NO is not denial…NOmeans Next Opportunity…always be positive!!

60) A positively sad thought: I realize how lovable I am because joy's andsorrows fight to get me, but the only complaint is that joy's never seem towin!!!

61) When a person expects love from you it does not mean that there is no oneelse to love him/her. It means the love from you is very special than that fromanyone else!!

62) There is no definition of a good day or a bad day. It all depends on youand your thoughts that "either YOU RUN THE DAY or THE DAY RUNS YOU"

63) Famous tennis player Arthur Ashe's last words while he was dying of cancer:

When he was asked that won't he feel bad to die???

He said: There are 6 billion people, 2 million people try to play tennis, 1million will learn, 50,000 become professionals, among them only 128 areselected for Wimbledon, 4 for the semifinals and 2 for the final and only onewins!!! When I was on that victory stand, I didn't ask God "why me??"….whyshould I ask now!!!

64) God always likes to know again and again what you want. It's not that he forgetsyour needs, but he loves to feel the sweetness of your prayers!!!

65) Why mom is special?

When I came drenched in the rain:

Brother asked - why don't you take an umbrella?

Sister asked – why don't you wait until rain stopped?

Papa warned – after getting cold you will realize!

But mom, ---while drying my hairs, said:

Stupid rain!!!...could not wait until my child comes home!!!

66) Fact of life:

Why in most of the love stories mother agrees and father disagrees?

Because mother knows what is love and father knows what life is!!!

67)A cute story:

There was a guy who was tired of reading his girlfriend's message which alwayscontained….I love you, I miss you, or have you taken you meal???

One night while lying on bed he received a message from her but he didn'tbother to read it instead he went to sleep.

Next day he got a call from his girlfriend's mother that:

Her daughter was raped and killed last night.

He then read the message. It read: Honey, please come here and help….someone isfollowing me.

Care for the one loves you a lot!!!

68) We spend sleepless nights thinking about the one we love and lost.

We cry into our pillows till our tears are drained.

If someone asks us "why you are sad?....we just reply, I am fine, just a littleheadache….

What a fake smile!!!

Our heart skips a beat when we see the one we loved, even though we are nottogether now..

Everyone in life goes through this period of pain and loneliness….!!

What does this part of life teaches us????.....

The lesson is very simple….IT MOULDS US INTO A MATURE AND SENSIBLE PERSON!!!

69) Optimism divine: One can count the number of seeds in an apple, but no onecan count the number of apples in a seed!!!...future is unseen…may the best beyours!!

70) People often say that they were cheated in love. But what they forget isthat one who cheated Never loved and one who loves never cheats!!

71) Best traffic advertisement of the world ever:

Picture of the Lord Ganesha with a saying: Care for your head. Not everyonegets a replacement like me!!!

72) Fact of life:

Compromising on your values for others is like selling your soul for those whowon't even remember that we took a turn just for their smile!!!

73) Cute lines: Many people are so lucky that even after hurting, they get somuch of love and very few are so unlucky that even after loving so much…theyget hurt!!!

74) As you admire the wonderful things God has made, remember you are one ofthem!!...wonderful inside and out…you are blessed!! You are special!!...you areloved!!

76)Nice lines: Never think that you are not like others….make others to thinkthat, "WHY THEY ARE NOT LIKE YOU???

77) Everyone says that love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts,rejection hurts, losing someone hurts, and envy hurts. Everyone gets thesethings confused with love, but in reality…..love is the only thing in thisworld that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.

78) Never hate people who are jealous of you, instead love them!!!...becausethey are the ones who think that you are better than them!!!

79) Wonderful quote on self-respect:

I don't care if you don't like me. I was not put on Earth to please you!!

80) Something really true:

No matter how regularly you message someone, you won't get response; but ifit's an unknown number everyone will respond.

We have time for unknown, but for known.

81) No matter how noble our intentions are, but the world judges by ourpresentation….and no matter how perfect our presentations are, but God judgesby our intentions!!

82) Ten wonderful 2-letter words:

If It Is To Be, It Is Up To Me!!!

83) The most beautiful blessing that can ever be given to anyone:

May the worst day of your future be better than the best day of your past!!!

A story is told about a soldier who wasfinally coming home after having fought in war. He called his parents ."Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've a favor to ask. I have a friendI'd like to bring home with me." "Sure," they replied,"we'd love to meet him."

"There's something you should know the son continued, "he was hurtpretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and aleg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us.""I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere tolive." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us."

"Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking.Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our ownlives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. Ithink you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way tolive on his own."

At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more fromhim. A few days later, however, they received a call from the police. Their sonhad died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed itwas suicide.

The grief-stricken parents flew to that place and were taken to the city morgueto identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horrorthey also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm andone leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love thosewho are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people whoinconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away frompeople who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.

Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer thatGod will give you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and tohelp us all be more understanding of those who are different from us!!!

"SILENCE THE NEGATIVE INNER VOICE"

silencethe negative inner critic Usually somewhere along the way in our journey oflife, we have come across someone who tells us that we're not good at doingsomething. It could be writing, or singing, or dancing, or speaking. Anything.And, we believe them. The tragedy can come from not following our dreamsbecause we always hear that one negative voice telling us that we're no good.It doesn't even matter how many other people we come across who will tell usyes we are good at doing something, we always remember that one negative voice.It's time to move past the negative voice. Here's how:

1. Do it anywaydo you love singing? Then sing. How about writing? If youlove it, do it. That's the only reason. It brings you joy, do it. Life is tooshort to not do the things we love because some misguided person told us not todo it.

If we all listened to these negative people then some of the greatest lifestories would never happened. Take this for example:

"Many years ago a young man mustered enough courage to ask a young womanto dance. After he danced with her for a few minutes, the woman told him he wasa lousy dancer. She complained that he danced like a truck driver.

To be sure, this bad experience would be enough for most people to quit dancingfor good. Watching television or sitting around being bored would be moreappealing than dancing again. Yet this man developed a passion for dancing andcontinued to dance for many decades.

In fact this man became known as one of the great dancers of modern times. Bythe early nineties, when he died, he had 500 dance schools named after him. Atone time, he had been on television for eleven years straight, showing peoplefrom all walks of life - including truck drivers - how to dance."

(excerpt from The Joy of Not Working by Ernie Zelinski)

Who was this man? None other than Arthur Murray. Luckily he didn't let that onewoman's comment stop him from doing what he loved.

Or did youknow that George Lucas spent four years shipping the script for Star Warsaround to the various studios and racking up numerous rejections in theprocess? If he'd let his negative inner voice get to him he would never haveended up having the highest grossing film of all time.

2. Brainstorm and Break ApartThink of all the steps you will need to do toaccomplish the one thing you really want to do above all else. Break theultimate end goal into smaller tasks and then just start plugging away at them.It's far easier to take one small step and to keep going than gettingfrustrated because you haven't managed to fulfill the ultimate goal yet.

3. Take small steps so you want to write the next great American novel butyour English teacher told you that a three-year old could write better than you.Or maybe they told you not to waste your time doing something that you'll neverbe able to make any money at. To get past this, take small steps. Instead ofgetting frustrated because you can't write your novel, write a short storyinstead. Write articles. Write, write, and write some more. Each time you writeyou will be gaining confidence in your ability. You'll soon be able to see thatyou are able to write because you have actual examples. Each step you take willalso bring you into contact with new opportunities and new ideas and one stepcloser to your ultimate dream. Just keep doing whatever it is that you lovedoing. You will also find that you are happiest when you are doing whatever itis that you love doing. This will also encourage to keep going.

4. Remember the big picture whenever you get bogged down by the day to dayissues, think back to the big picture. What is it that you want to accomplishin the end? What is it that you really, really want to do? Think how great itwill feel when it actually happens. Focus on that. Ignore the little things.They'll soon be in the past.

5. Reflect— Think back on how far you've already come. You've taken great stridesalready. Think how great it felt when you were able to accomplish some of thosesmall steps.

negative inner conversations, tell them do not disturb 6. Focus on somethingelse —whenever you hear that voice, tell it to "shut up" or think of putting upa Do Not Disturb sign for your inner critic and then think of somethingpositive in your life. Think about a loved one, your dog, a funny joke,anything to get yourself back in a positive mind set. Also, instead of thatinner critic create for yourself an Inner Supporter.

7. Go for a walk sometimes just getting up and doing something physical givesus enough endorphins to actually feel better about ourselves. When we feelbetter about ourselves, it's easier to accomplish our goals.

8. Listen to your heart — whatever it is that you really want to do with yourlife, it's not going to go away. It will always be there. It will also kill youto see someone else doing that thing you really wanted to do with your life.The tragedy is when it turns into a regret that you never took the chance toeven try.

9. Greatest Critic Becomes Greatest Supporter — remember when you finally dosucceed that most negative person who said you could never do it, will probablybe the loudest person to say, "I knew they could it". It's human nature. And ifyou have no idea where your 4th grade English teacher is now, just think whatgreat revenge it is when you know they're going to read your novel and justsay, "Wow". Maybe you could even send them a copy.

10. Have Faith it's your life not someone else's. So, LIVE IT! You can nevermake someone else happy by living the way they want you to live. You'll onlyend up making yourself miserable and that person will never be satisfied. Youhave to listen to your heart and do what is best for you.

Never Quit

One day I decided to quit...quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality...

I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with GOD.

"GOD", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer

surprised me... "Look around", GOD said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?

" "Yes", I replied. When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds,

I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water.

The fern quickly grew from the earth. It has brilliantly covered the floor green.

Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again,

nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo." GOD said."

In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit.

In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit."

GOD said. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.

Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...

But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had

spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave

it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a

challenge it could not handle." GOD said to me. "Did you know that all this

time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"

"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare

yourself to others." GOD said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern.

Yet they both make the forest beautiful." "Your time will come", GOD said to me.

"You will rise high" "How high should I rise?" I asked. "How high will

the bamboo rise?" GOD asked in return. "As high as it can?" I questioned.

"Yes." GOD said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can."

I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can

help you see that GOD will never give up on you. GOD will never give up on you.

I WISH YOU ENOUGH

Recently I overheard a Father and daughter in their last momentstogether at the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near thesecurity gate, they hugged and the Father said, 'I love you, and I wish youenough.' The daughter replied, 'Dad, our life together has been more thanenough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.'

They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where Iwas seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried notto intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, 'Did you ever saygood-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?' 'Yes, I have,' I replied.'Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?'.. 'I am old, andshe lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the nexttrip back will be for my funeral,' he said. 'When you were saying good-bye, Iheard you say, 'I wish you enough.' May I ask what that means?' He began tosmile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. Myparents used to say it to everyone...' He paused a moment and looked up as iftrying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more. 'When we said, 'Iwish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled withjust enough good things to sustain them.' Then turning toward me, he shared thefollowing as if he were reciting it from his memory.

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the daymay appear.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.

I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appearbigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

He then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,

an hour to appreciate them,

a day to love them;

but then an entire life to forget them.

I WISH YOU ENOUGH !!!

What is auto-suggestion? An auto-suggestion is a statement made in thepresent tense, of the kind of person you want to be. Auto-suggestions are like writing acommercial to yourself about yourself, for yourself. They influence both yourconscious and subconscious mind which in turn influence attitude and behavior.

Auto-suggestions are a way to program your subconscious mind. They can beeither

positive or negative.

Examples of negative auto-suggestions are:

¨ I'm tired.

¨ I'm not an athlete.

¨ I have a poor memory.

¨ I'm not good at math.

When we repeat to ourselves a negative auto-suggestion, our subconsciousmind believes it and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and startsreflecting in our behavior. Forexample, when I am talking to someone and I forget what I had to say, I tellthe other person, "See, I forgot what I wanted to say. I have such a poormemory."

People who come into contact with crime the first time, hate it. With constantexposure they get used to it and if the exposure is long enough, they mayembrace it. And they become creators of their own misfortune.

When a person repeats a belief long enough, it sinks into the subconsciousand becomes reality. A lierepeated long enough becomes accepted as the truth.

Positive auto-suggestions are being widely used in the field of sports andmedicine. Why make positive statements? Because we want to create a picture inour minds of what we want to have rather than what we don't. Any picture thatwe hold in our mind becomes reality. Auto-suggestionsare a process of repetition. Aperson who repeats a statement long enough lets it sink into the subconsciousmind. For example, I am relaxed. I am cool, calm and collected.

Auto-suggestions should not be practiced in a negative way I am not tense. Iwon't be angry.

Positivestatements are made because we think in pictures and not in words. If I say"Don't think of the blue elephant," what is the first picture thatcomes to your mind? The blue elephant.

If I say "mother," what comes to your mind? A picture of your mother.Did you start

spelling m-o-t-h-e-r? Of course not! When a negative word comes in theauto-suggestion, it forms a negative picture which we want to avoid.

Why in the present tense? Because our mind cannot tell the differencebetween a real experience and an imagined one. For example, parents are expectingtheir child to come home at 9:30 p.m. but the kid is not home and it is now 1a.m. What is going through the parents' mind? They are probably hopingeverything's okay. "I hope the kid didn't get into an accident." Whatis happening to their blood pressure? It is going up! This is an imaginedexperience. The reality could be that the kid is having fun at a party, isirresponsible, and did not get home when he was supposed to.

Now reverse the scenario. Supposing the kid was very responsible and wasactually

coming home at 9:30 p.m. but got into an accident, and still didn't get home at1 a.m. What is happening to the parents' blood pressure? It is still going up!The first scenario was an imagined experience. The second one was a realexperience but the body's response in both cases was identical. Our mind cannottell the difference between a real and an imagined experience.

Preparethe Subsconscious

How can we use auto-suggestions to eliminate negative habits and developpositive

ones? We have all used auto-suggestions unconsciously. For example, when youhave to catch an early morning flight, you automatically tell yourself that youhave got to get up. And invariably, you do (sometimes, even without an alarmclock). A prepared subconscious mind has hunches and gut feelings.

Auto-suggestion is a way to program and condition our mind to make a statementinto a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Auto-suggestion is a repetitive process through which we feed our subconsciouswith

positive statements which translate into reality. Repetition alone is not enough,unless it is accompanied by emotions and feelings.

Auto-suggestions without visualization will not produce results. The first time our mind receives anautosuggestion it rejects it. Why? It is an alien thought, contrary to ourbelief system. Success would depend on our ability to concentrate and repeatthe process.

Steps to follow on auto-suggestions.

1. Go to a spot where you won't be disturbed.

2. Write down your suggestions.

The self-discipline to finish what one starts, is imperative. Auto-suggestion is a powerfulcharacter building tool.

TranslatingAuto-Suggestion into Reality

1. Make a list of your auto-suggestions in the present tense.

2. Repeat auto-suggestions at least twice a day: first thing in the morning andat the end of the day. This is because in the morning, the mind is fresh andreceptive and at night you deposit the positive picture into your subconsciousovernight.

3. Repeat it consecutively for 21 days until it becomes a habit.

4. Auto-suggestions alone will not work. They need visualization.

VISUALIZATION

Visualization is the process of creating and seeing a mental picture of the kindof thing you want to have or do, or the kind of person you want to be. Visualization goes hand in hand withauto-suggestion. Auto-suggestion without visualization is mechanical repetitionand will be ineffective. In order to see results, auto-suggestion must beaccompanied by feelings and emotions (visualization).

CAUTION! Auto-suggestionmay not be acceptable to the mind the first time you do it because it is analien thought. For example, if for the past few decades I have believed that Ihave a poor memory and now all of a sudden, I tell myself, "I have a goodmemory!", my mind will throw it out, saying, "You liar! You have abad memory!" Because that is what it has believed up to this point. Itwill take 21 days to dispel this notion. Why 21 days? Because it takes aminimum of 21 days of conscious, consecutive practice to formulate a habit.

The big question is: Is 21 days of conscious effort a heavy price to pay tochange a lifetime for the better? It all sounds simple but it is not easy. I amnot surprised to see how few people go through this routine.

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PERCEPTION

The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and,without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes:

A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watchand started to walk again.

At 10 minutes :

A 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his In Washington DC, at a Metro Station, on acold January morning in 2007, this man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later:

head the whole time. This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent - without exception - forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 Minutes :

The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace.The man collected a total of $32.

After 1 Hour :

He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed and no one applauded.

There was no recognition at all.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatestmusicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces everwritten, with a Stradivarius violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell, playing incognito in the DC Metro Station,was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities.

This experiment raised several questions :

*In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceivebeauty?

*If so, do we stop to appreciate it?

*Do we recognise talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians inthe world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the mostbeautiful instruments ever made . . .

How many other things are we missing as we rush through life ?????!

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"NEVER DOUBT YOURSELF"

If I would leave any thought with someone I would say never doubt yourself. No matter what people say, no matter what you may think sometimes,never doubt yourself. If you believe in yourself you will succeed far more than you will fail. He who possesses a quiet kind of faith in his ability to performa task already has the task half completed.

Believe in yourself despite setbacks, despite the seemingly immovable obstacles, despite the cold and dark, despite the woe andpain, and eventually your faith will come to fruition, and you will find all those troubles behind you.

The simplest thing in the world is to deride ourselves because we made a mistake, to give up and say, "I'm no good", but the more difficult thing is to believe in ourselves and constructively continue our life. The greatest error in life is to downgrade ourselves. The most horrible tragedies in life have occurred from a lack offaith in one's own self, one's own ability, from a belief that one cannot succeed, but that failure is their sole lot in life.

There seems to be a self uncertainty that buildsup in the mind every time one makes a mistake or fails to accomplish a task,and with every successive blunder the uncertainty grows stronger until one doubts one's ability to do anything right. Being human we are host to a number of frailties, each one of which disturbs and depresses us, and makes us doubtour worth. We are not a mechanically precise machine, we are a bundle of nerves which often tangle and get jangled, but are capable of amazing performance.

We have more strength than we believe, there is more fight within us than we know, and far more potential than we could evercall forth or even dream of being possible.

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CHAPTER ONE

I walk down the street.

There's a hole in the sidewalk.

It is a very deep hole.

I fall in... I am helpless.

It isn't my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

CHAPTER TWO

I walk down the same street.

There's a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don't see it.

I fall in... again.

I can't believe I'm in the same place, but itisn't my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

CHAPTER THREE

I walk down the same street.

There's a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in... it's a habit, but my eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

CHAPTER FOUR

I walk down the same street.

There's a deep hole in the side walk.

I walk around it.

CHAPTER FIVE

I walk down another street.

What a marvelous progression from... a helpless victim of life... to a victim of self... to taking responsibility... toself-discipline... to making better choices!

"Self-Actualization Footnotes"

The starting point to personal achievement and self-actualizationbegins with definiteness of purpose coupled with a burning desire for its achievement. Equally important is accurate thinking and timely planning.

General background knowledge isimportant. The person who has a broad knowledge of many fields and an abundance of accumulative experience can come up with new and significant creative ideaseasier and more rapidly than can the individual who has specialized knowledge inonly one field.

Collect and file notes,clippings, and ideas that seem interesting, provocative and original. Askyourself "how might I be able to use or improve on this or that?"

Engage freely in hobbies, games,crossword puzzles! Read at least one book a month.

Travel! There is a big learningexperience out there. It doesn't have to be expensive or international.

Continually ask "Why?""How come?" and "Who says so?"...and then ask it again andagain! Dumb questions are often penetrating questions in disguise.

Avoid rigid, set patterns ofdoing things. That's a little dull! Go on a retreat, or simply choose to meetnew people.

Be open and receptive to yourhunches as well as to other's ideas. Ideas are fleeting and quite often,fragile. Listen positively to them and above all, jot them down in your ideabook or journal.

Stop...look...and pause! Inother words, pay attention, to yourself, others and the things around you. Thisis how we learn.

Adopt a "let's try itattitude!" All of history's big ideas and breakthroughs were originallyrisks.

Polish you self-image, and haveit say YOU are important! No matter what we are thinking or feeling, be itpositive or negative, comes across loud and clear.

Choose to be bold, courageousand curious! Weak people seldom accomplish things of significance!

Sift fact from opinion orothers' assumptions. This vital!

The world seems to tolerate mediocrity! Choose to be a winner! An innovator! An explorer! There is room here for everyone.

Laugh freely and often!"Life is a bubble...so why worry and trouble?" Serious, seriouspeople are often bores in disguise.

Think BIG! It takes as much energy and effort to think "BIG" as it does to think"small".

It doesn't matter where you arefrom or what schooling you possess, but rather it is"what you do" and"how you do it" that really counts!

If it is said "it can't bedone" ask him or her..."What have YOU done of significance that qualifies you to say it can't be done?"

"Remember not the events ofthe past, the things of long ago consider not, see, I am doing something new!"

"MY KIND OF LESSONS OF LIFE"

I've learned....that the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. I've learned....that when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned....that just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.

I've learned....that having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I've learned....that being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned....that you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've learned....that I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned....that no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned....that sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned....that money doesn't buy class.

I've learned....that it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned....that under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned....that to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I've learned....that when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned....that love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned....that the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....that everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned....that there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.

I've learned....that no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

I've learned....that life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned....that opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned....that when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned....that I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her, one more time, before she passed away.

I've learned....that one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned....that a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned....that I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.

I've learned....that when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for life.

I've learned....that everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned....that it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life-threatening situation.

I've learned....that the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

"Time Management Parable"

One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget.

As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers he said,

"Okay, time for a quiz" and he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. He also produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar.

When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class yelled, "Yes."

The time management expert replied, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. He dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks. He then asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?"

By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered.

"Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full?" "No!" the class shouted.

Once again he said, "Good." Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"

One eager student raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it!"

"No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all."

What are the 'big rocks' in your life, time with your loved ones, your faith, your education, your dreams, a worthy cause, teaching or mentoring others? Remember to put these big rocks in first or you'll never get them in at all. So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question: What are the 'big rocks' in my life? Then, put those in your jar first.

You Are Wonderful

''The following story captured our heart. It happened several years ago in the Paris opera house. A famous singer had been contracted to sing, and ticket sales were booming. In fact, the night of the concert found the house packed and every ticket sold.

The feeling of anticipation and excitement was in the air as the house manager took the stage and said, Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for your enthusiastic support. I am afraid that due to illness, the man whom you've all come to hear will not be performing tonight. However, we have found a suitable substitute we hope will provide you with comparable entertainment. The crowd groaned in disappointment and failed to hear the announcer mention the stand-in's name. The environment turned from excitement to frustration.

The stand-in performer gave the performance everything he had. When he had finished, there was nothing but an uncomfortable silence. No one applauded. Suddenly, from the balcony, a little boy stood up and shouted, Daddy, I think you are wonderful! The crowd broke into thunderous applause.

We all need people in our Lives who are willing to stand up once in a while and say, I think you are wonderful.

And at times others are expecting this from you. Are you telling them how wonderful you are?''

- People wants to protect their ego only.

- All problems remain because of his ego.

- A person is sad because of his inability to protect his ego or fulfill hisambition. Such person may politely approach a spiritual person for blessings,but by holding his ego inside. So, blessings do not make him happy. He canbecome happy only when he has let his ego fall and truly surrender himself tothe Lord.

- Ego (I or mine) wants attention and appreciation whereas Egoless-ness cangive true attention to anything and can realize The Lord in it.

- Ego is very delicate it remains in one form or other.

- Both are egos whether it is of "Riches" or"Renunciations".

- People want blessings on their ego, for example, a rich wants the blessingsto grow his riches, so that, his ego of richness or being rich

person gets elevated.

- Blessings or "True Bliss" automatically get showered on the personwho has truly left/ got rid of all egos.

- Ego and Self-Realization can never go together.

- Ego demands whereas Egoless-ness tends to surrender.

- Ego demands rewards for all austerities he has done to realize God.

- Egoless-ness remains humble and surrenders to the Lord all his austerities,as if, only due to Lord's Grace all devotional services got

executed.

- Ego shows off his qualities and achievement in the path of Self-Realization(how much japam/ austerities/ charity/ selfless service

etc. done!) to the Lord. Ego also justifies his failures.

- Egoless-ness confesses his limitations in the front of Lord and constantlyworks toward improving himself with love and prayers.

- Ego means samsara (Worldliness/ Wordliness) and surrender/ egoless meansmukti (Salvation/ Godliness)

- One can only become egoless when he recognizes that nothing (name, fame,money, emotions, all good or bad) had ever belonged to him, but they all werethe gifts of Lord only.

- Only an Egoless can become "Sharaddhaban"

Last Sunday, my wife, kid, and I had to travelto Andheri from Bandra. When I waved at a passing auto rickshaw, little did Iexpect that this ride would be any different. As we set off, my eyes fell on afew magazines(kept in an aircraft style pouch) behind the driver's back rest. Ilooked in front and there was a small TV. The driver had put on the Doordarshanchannel.

My wife and I looked at each other with disbelief and amusement. In front of mewas a small first-aid box with cotton, dettol and some medicines. This wasenough for me to realise that I was in a special vehicle. Then I looked roundagain, and discovered more - there was a radio, fire extinguisher, wall clock,calendar, and pictures and symbols of all faiths - from Islam and Christianityto Buddhism, Hinduism and Sikhism. There were also pictures of the heroes of26/11- Kamte, Salaskar, Karkare and Unnikrishnan. I realised that not only myvehicle, but also my driver was special.

I started chatting with him and the initial sense of ridicule and disbeliefgradually diminished. I gathered that he had been driving an auto rickshaw forthe past 8-9 years; he had lost his job when his employer's plastic company wasshut down. He had two school-going children, and he drove from 8 in the morningtill 10 at night. No break unless he was unwell. "Sahab, ghar mein baithke TV dekh kar kya faida? Do paisa income karega toh future mein kaamaayega."

We realised that we had come across a man who represents Mumbai – the spirit ofwork, the spirit of travel and the spirit of excelling in life. I asked himwhether he does anything else as I figured that he did not have too much sparetime.. He said that he goes to an old age home for women in Andheri once a weekor whenever he has some extra income, where he donates tooth brushes,toothpastes, soap, hair oil, and other items of daily use. He pointed out to apainted message below the meter that read: "25 per cent discount onmetered fare for the handicapped. Free rides for blind passengers up to Rs. 50.

"

My wife and I were struck with awe. The man was a HERO! A hero who deserves allour respect. Our journey came to an end; 45 minutes of a lesson in humility,selflessness, and of a hero-worshipping Mumbai, my temporary home. Wedisembarked, and all I could do was to pay him a tip that would hardly cover afree ride for a blind man.

I hope, one day, you too have a chance to meet Mr Sandeep Bachhe in his autorickshaw: MH-02-Z-8508.

"One man CAN make a Difference"

"Think Global, Act Local"

Once a man went into a wood and saw a beautiful creature on a tree. Later he told a friend about it and said, 'Brother on a certain tree in the wood I saw a red-colored creature!' The friend answered: 'I have seen it too. Why do you call it red? It is green.' A third man said: 'Oh, no, no! Why do you call it green? It is yellow.' Then other persons began to describe the animal variously as violet, blue, or black. Soon they were quarreling about the color.

In the like manner, one who constantly thinks of God can know His forms and aspects. God has attributes; then again He has none. Only the man who lives under the tree knows that the chameleon can appear in various colors, and he knows, further, that the animal at times has no color at all. Others not knowing the whole truth quarrel among themselves and suffer.

So God also appears to all of us in the form we see him ... But in actual sense god is one

he has no form .. and he is the only power of creation under whose arms we are living .. Just think your blessed to have a wonderful life called Human being .. accept what god sends your way he has planned everything good for you whatever happens, happens for our good so live this blessed life happy and ever happy forever .. Don't fight in the name of god giving names to his forms with different religions.. We are Human and Human being is our religion

<H3 class=smller>GENEROSITY

Mahatma Gandhi went from city to city, village to village collecting funds for the Charkha Sangh. During one of his tours he addressed a meeting in Orissa. After his speech a poor old woman got up. She was bent with age, her hair was grey and her clothes were in tatters. The volunteers tried to stop her, but she fought her way to the place where Gandhiji was sitting. "I must see him," she insisted and going up to Gandhiji touched his feet. Then from the folds of her sari she brought out a copper coin and placed it at his feet. Gandhiji picked up the copper coin and put it away carefully. The Charkha Sangh funds were under the charge of Jamnalal Bajaj. He asked Gandhiji for the coin but Gandhiji refused. "I keep cheques worth thousands of rupees for the Charkha Sangh," Jamnalal Bajaj said laughingly "yet you won't trust me with a copper coin." "This copper coin is worth much more than those thousands," Gandhiji said. "If a man has several lakhs and he gives away a thousand or two, it doesn't mean much. But this coin was perhaps all that the poor woman possessed. She gave me all she had. That was very generous of her. What a great sacrifice she made. That is why I value this copper coin more than a crore of rupees." </H3>